What an ordeal! There are times when I'm self conscious and resentful about my weight gain being somewhat out of my control that I want to wear a sign that says

"It's not my fault." The only thing I want to "cheerlead" you about is that I am 68-- which truly does put me in the old lady category. You are "middle aged" at 52. Don't settle into old-ladyness before you have to. It's another whole realm of sucking. Im not saying anything about your weight-- but don't settle into that awful bunch of adjectives, even though its

how you feel right now, especially with everything you've been through!mmm