I put my daughter before helping people.

But there are ways help people without going into all the gory details. Just that issue you draw of having your truth and having your daughter-- a good article would be about being a parent and a sympathetic writer--Lay out the conflict. You dont have to have to answer. But its a big one because its not just in writing, its in talking. There have been times since my husband left, that I wanted to rant to my daughter and I have just had to shut up

At the same time, I have to say things like It really hurts that dad left us. He left me, not you, etc etc. If he acts like an asshole, you need to acknowledge the kids feelings without putting a suffocating layer of yours. Interesting questions thanks martha