Cosette thanks so much for your comments. RE baths- I found that I-a perfectly competent person, became stupid and live within the "mercy" of the experts. The best helpers for me increased my sense of mastery by putting things in perspective--often downplaying them from the the frantic anxious, the world is going to end if I dont do this perfectly that I had put them in.

I just dont get the blue pink thing. What exactly are we celebrating

thanks again martha