Juice

We must be attentive to them because they are intertwined and can be trampled as a result of the overturning of Roe. — First, as a psychologist, I’m going to get my highly reactive self to settle down and give an overview of the kinds of things we need to be vigilant about. This isn’t “only” about abortion. We must react to that, but we must also be attentive to things that may…

“Civil disobedience, one purchase at a time, one drive at a time” — I can’t sleep. I’m furious and I’m frightened…Not so much for myself. I’m 70 years old. I have lived a life with at least some basic “inalienable” rights that determined the course of my reproductive life. I never envisioned that such basic rights could be stolen from us, across the…

Letting go brings a range of reactions — The work A therapist lives her life by the clock. The luxury is that she sets the time. (I’ll take Mondays off, I’ll work 2 evenings a week. I’ll see 25 people a week.) If it’s Tuesday at 10, it must be D., and then M., V., S&T. and W.” Within the…

My daughter lives 4000 miles away, but she knew that the woman who taught her about her birthright would be in pain. I thought she was visiting friends in the country. When I heard the news that I knew was coming, I reached out to my sisters who were tied…

Forget the positive “self talk.” I look like hell! — Once I was thin. For the first half of my life, I never thought about it much, except when I passed a mirror and had a burst of pleasure — especially in a bikini. I recall un-self-consciously threading my way down the long paths on the beach.With my naturally blonde streaked hair, I knew…

The passage of time and the tenacity of love allow for the gift of redemption — Whenever I say that my father was an alcoholic, I want to suck in the breath that just dispersed it into the world. It’s not because it’s false. He had a long struggle with alcohol. And it had a negative impact on me. But when I say, “My father was…

Some of the least likely words stay with us and do us good — When I was in my interminable psychologist training, nearly a million years ago, we labored under the assumption that was the perfect thing to say, with the perfect timing and follow-up. It was an unnerving approach, since if there is something that is bound to screw up, it’s a conversation…

How do we write honestly and fearlessly in an uncontrollable situation? — Yesterday, I didn’t have to read for very long before hitting one angry post, and then another, and another. The authors were frustrated, hurt and enraged. They covered issues of plagiarism, borderline negative comments, outright horrible comments, and things people do to jack up their numbers. For myself, I would…

Understanding the difference between sex and sexuality was so confusing — Cinderella: my dream girl All I wanted for my fifth birthday was a glittering watch with a pink strap. It came in a glass (probably plastic) slipper. I had searched the whole house before the big day and finally found it on top of my father’s dresser. It was magic. I was on my…